Archetype Category: Beta male with a few Alpha traits
More informal nicknames and alternative labels: “Henpecked Husband,” “Nice Guy,” “A Sweetheart of a Man,” “Polite Gentleman,” “Breadwinner,” “Financial Favor Provider,” “Sugar Daddy,” “Mr. Passive-Aggressive,” “Husbitch,” “Pussy Whipped“
Brief description / General “M.O.”: Men who fall into the ‘Beta male with a few Alpha traits’ category tend to capture the attention of women by offering women some degree of financial assistance or financial support, and they also tend to promise women an undying sense of indefinite marital or relationship monogamy. These men are usually not a woman’s “first choice” for a long-term romantic companion, but many women prefer these type of men because they know they can heavily influence their behavior throughout the course of the relationship or marriage.
General ‘Alpha’ Attributes that men in this category tend to possess (Black represents ‘mandatory’ attributes, Gray represents ‘optional’ traits):
- Confident and self-assured in his speech and actions
(i.e., doesn’t hesitate to take action toward the achievement of his goals and the accomplishment of his objectives, and usually expects a positive outcome and desirable results from his actions and behavior)
- Above-average to exceptionally high degree of self-esteem
(i.e., thinks very highly of himself and what he has to offer the world)
- Strong desire to lead others in his professional and personal relationships
(i.e., wants to be the final decision-maker for the most important issues facing a business relationship, platonic friendship, or romantic / sexual relationship)
- Strong desire to erotically dominate sex partners
(i.e., wants to totally dictate when sex happens, how frequently it happens, what sexual positions will be used, what their partner will do to please them and satisfy them, etc.)
- Totally unfazed by and generally indifferent in response to other people’s subjective criticisms or insults of himself and his behavior
(i.e., could care less about the opinions and expectations of others)
- An extremely low desire to compromise with others regarding his wants, needs, demands, and requests
(i.e., he wants people to acquiesce to what he wants them to do rather than vice versa)
- Does not allow other people to treat him in any sort of disrespectful and/or undesirable manner more than once, and definitely not more than twice
(i.e., does not allow other people to bully him or exhibit behavior that is blatantly rude to him without that person facing some sort of repercussions or consequences)
- Possesses a very boastful and/or extremely competitive ego
(i.e., hates for rivals and adversaries to receive more attention, respect, and/or public recognition than himself)
- Tends to express his thoughts and opinions in a blunt, outspoken manner
(regardless of if he leaves other people’s egos bruised or feelings hurt)
- Generally tends to lean more heavily toward promiscuous and/or polyamorous sexual tendencies rather than strictly monogamous sexual tendencies
(i.e., tends to be more of a ‘player’ type and womanizer type rather than a ‘faithful husband’ or ‘faithful boyfriend’ type)
- Frowns on conversations and social interactions with others that he deems ‘trivial,’ ‘unproductive,’ or a general waste of his time
(i.e., doesn’t really care for ‘fluff talk’ and ‘small talk’ and social activities that primarily center on simply engaging in entertaining conversations with others)
- Would be willing to fight, and kill if necessary, in order to protect himself, his family, his children, and other loved ones
(i.e., very territorial when it comes to the physical safety of those he cares about)
General ‘Beta’ Attributes that men in this category tend to possess (Black represents ‘mandatory’ attributes, Gray represents ‘optional’ traits):
- Tends to optimistically ‘hope for’ positive outcomes and desirable results rather than confidently ‘expect’ them to happen
(i.e., an average to less-than-average degree of personal confidence)
- Possesses a very erratic degree of self-esteem
(i.e., sometimes, he feels good about himself and what he has to offer … and other times, he feels like he is worthless)
- Prefers to allow others to make important decisions and has no problem helping others achieve their goals
(i.e., doesn’t mind being a ‘follower’ rather than a ‘leader’)
- Enjoys very gentle, emotionally profound, monogamy-oriented sex rather than non-monogamous, no-strings-attached sex that involves no real emotional connection
(i.e., would much prefer to be a woman’s ONLY male lover as opposed to her having multiple male lovers)
- Is known to be very ‘thin-skinned’ and emotionally and/or egotistically sensitive in response to other people criticizing him or insulting him
(i.e., possesses a very fragile, insecure ego)
- Can be very agreeable, compromising, empathetic, and even doesn’t have a problem being subservient and acquiescent to others
(i.e., doesn’t like ‘verbal confrontations’ with others, and is somewhat intimidated by men who he perceives as more masculine than him and/or more dominant than him)
- Many times, will allow others to talk to him and/or treat him in a manner that is condescending, disrespectful, blatantly rude, or just downright disrespectful
(i.e., doesn’t have enough strength of backbone to always stand up for himself)
- Usually looks to fawn over others and play up to their egos
(i.e., very flattering toward others and their appealing qualities)
- Tends to be extremely careful and cautious with his speech and rarely criticizes or insults people directly to their face
(i.e., always looks to converse with others in a very respectful and even deferential manner)
- Generally tends to be very accommodating, forgiving, lenient, and financially generous with women
(i.e., tends to place women on ‘pedestals,’ and genuinely cares about their financial well-being)
- Loves to be very ‘talkative’ and social with other members of his own gender as well as women
(i.e., loves to share entertaining anecdotes and biographical stories and does not mind accumulating a high number of purely platonic female friends)
- Very much looks to avoid physical confrontations (e.g., fisticuffs fighting) with others and generally attempts to avoid engaging in any type of gun violence or other violence with others that involves weaponry
(i.e., leans toward being a non-aggressive pacifist and hates people who are violent criminals and/or bullies)
General Commentary: This is the second of two categories of men who tend to maintain a ‘blend’ of both Alpha male attributes and traits and Beta male attributes and traits. This archetype category is the Beta male with a few Alpha traits, and the other blended category is the Alpha male with a few Beta traits.
A Beta male with a few Alpha traits tends to present himself in public as your prototypical “nice guy” type. Usually, he is very flattering, entertaining, empathetic and considerate, helpful and supportive, accommodating and generally easy-to-get-along-with. The man in this category is usually college-educated, affluent, and very financially generous with women of interest.
A Beta male with a few Alpha traits is usually a man who is, or used to be, a “Mama’s boy” type and has bought into the belief that the most effective way to attract and maintain the interest of desirable women is to offer to spend money on women, ‘wine and dine’ women, woo and court women, and offer to take care of women financially and pay most if not all of the expenses for the women who agree to be their romantic companion or wife. These men will usually defer to their wives or long-term girlfriends, and generally allow their female companions to ‘wear the pants’ in the relationship and make the important decisions in the relationship. Typically, men in this category were raised by a mother who was, on the positive end, very loving and physically affectionate … but on the negative end, was very controlling and domineering with her son(s).
Many times, men in this category tend to have a very ‘average’ looking physique or physical appearance. These men might be overweight, underweight, extremely short, or just “geeky” or “nerdy” looking. These men make up for their physical shortcomings with a burning desire to achieve a high degree of education, a high degree of career success, and/or a high degree of wealth and material possessions. They will also often pursue careers that may offer them a high degree of fame, notoriety, and public recognition, respect, and social status.
Sometimes, men in this category can lack confident and effective social skills, and can frequently be quite loquacious and long-winded in their conversations with women due to their strong desire to attempt to ‘impress’ women of interest with their accomplishments and achievements. Men in this category will take advantage of every opportunity to ‘brag’ about the expensive material possessions they own, their academic and/or career achievements, their wealth or accumulated net worth, or how popular or well-liked they are by others, while in conversation with a woman of interest.
Many men in this category tend to be thin-skinned (i.e., very sensitive in response to criticisms and personal insults expressed by others) and they tend to maintain a high number of egotistical insecurities related to whether or not other people find them appealing as friends and romantic companions. It is these men’s sense of egotistical insecurity that causes them to become very boastful and braggadocious at times and very egotistically competitive with other men. Men in this category tend to always feel like they “have something to prove” to people, and this is what usually drives their sense of ambition to achieve their career-related and financial-related goals and objectives.
The harsh reality for men in this category, as it relates to dating and relationships, is simply this: No finance, no romance. If men in this category were to remain unemployed for a lengthy period of time or experience some long-lasting episode of unexpected financial-related adversity, their love life, sex life, and overall social life would severely suffer as a result. The primary appeal of men in this category in the eyes of women is usually a combination of their degree of career success, their level of social status, their amount of wealth, and their willingness to be financially generous with women.
Consequently, many women will connect with men in this category just to exploit them financially for a number of weeks, months, years, or decades. Many women will date and eventually agree to marry a Beta male with a few Alpha traits, but will frequently or occasionally cheat on these men behind their back with another man who is a Total Alpha male or an Alpha male with a few Beta traits. Sometimes, men in this category will experience a situation where their wife will divorce them without warning or their long-term girlfriend will break up with them unexpectedly and then later connect with another man who possesses a higher degree of education, a higher level of career success, a higher amount of wealth or net worth, or a higher degree of social status and/or fame. Men who fall into this category almost tend to be a ‘magnet’ of sorts for women who are highly manipulative, materialistic ‘gold digger’ types.
Men in this category tend to very frequently allow their female companions to browbeat them and even disrespect them, but if you push men in this category too far, they will experience a ‘psychotic break’ (temporary or long-lasting) and they will soon become aggressive, angry, profanely argumentative, and sometimes even physically violent. Many men in this category suffer from a psychological condition that many would refer to as “moody” and/or “passive-aggressive.” This could be due to some form of mental illness (such as a personality disorder), a hormone imbalance or Bipolar Disorder, or simply a very erratic sense of masculine backbone. Men in this category tend to vacillate between being very accommodating and lenient with women of interest to quickly developing an attitude of, “Okay bitch, I’ve had enough out of you! Violate my boundaries just ONE more time, and you will pay for it. Dearly!!” Some men in this category may find themselves the perpetrators of domestic violence against women.
In wrapping up, there are not too many true ‘benefits’ to a man remaining in this category indefinitely. Most men in this category will never feel 100% secure in their marriage or long-term relationships with women. Men in this category will have an even more challenging time getting women to agree to engage in one or more episodes of short-term and/or non-monogamous casual sex. Usually, the only time women will indulge in promiscuous and/or polyamorous sex with a man in this category is if that man offers to spend a significant amount of money on them or even offers to become their long-term ‘Sugar Daddy.’ Men in this category tend to verbally communicate with women in either a Mode Two manner (if in a relationship or married) or in a Mode Three (Target) manner if they are single and unmarried. Men in this category tend to be very guilty of FunClubbing with women when they are single and unmarried, which never works out for them in the long-run.
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