Beginning with as far back as the 1980s, I have had some men and a number of women who know me ask me, “Alan … have you been trained in the art of ‘verbal hypnotism’?”
My answer would be that I have never ‘formally’ studied the art of ‘verbal hypnotism’ (or any other form of hypnotism), but that said, I would probably acknowledge that I have trained myself in the art of verbal hypnotism (or what is also referred to as ‘conversational hypnotism‘).
In the 1980s, I once had two very close friends of mine who asked me if I had formally studied hypnotism. I discuss this incident in my book, Oooooh . . . Say it Again: Mastering the Fine Art of Verbal Seduction and Aural Sex. It is included in Part Two (Verbal Seduction Story #1). The reason they asked this was because they witnessed a woman initially behaving in a totally negative manner toward me in the early stages of my interaction with her during a particular evening … and then, roughly a half-hour later or so, they witnessed that same woman behaving in a totally obedient and erotically submissive manner toward me. Everything I told her to do and say, she responded by saying, “Yes Sir …”
In my private Men’s Forum on Facebook, I posted how a woman who recently listened to my talk radio podcast program, Upfront & Straightforward, mentioned to me in a private phone conversation, “Alan … I am convinced you have been trained in the art of verbal hypnotism. You have honed a talent that not too many men possess.” Since I posted about that conversation, I now am receiving a lot of questions about it from dozens of my male followers.
So, I wanted to take some time to offer many of my male (and female) followers some “free tips” and general insight on the concept of hypnotism, brainwashing, and conditioned/trained responses.
HOW STIMULI AFFECTS HOW YOUR CONSCIOUS MIND WORKS vs. YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND
1) Your mind reacts to and responds to certain forms of visual stimuli (what you see), auditory stimuli (what you hear), olfactory stimuli (what you smell), gustatory stimuli (what you taste), or somatosensory stimuli (what you touch and/or physically feel).
2) Without getting too lengthy or too academic and intellectual in my explanations, your conscious mind and your subconscious mind behave and respond to stimuli in a totally different manner.
Your conscious mind acts as more of a “moral filter” as well as an “ethical gatekeeper.” It responds to a wide variety of stimuli by asking questions like, “Should I respond to this stimuli in a ‘positive’ manner or a ‘negative’ manner?” “Is this stimuli going to provide my mind and body with something beneficial to me? or detrimental to me?” “Is responding favorably to this stimuli considered ‘socially appropriate?’ or is responding favorably to this stimuli considered ‘socially inappropriate?'” Etc., etc., etc. Your conscious mind evaluates the decision to respond to stimuli from an ethical, logical, moral, and rational perspective.
Your subconscious mind absorbs and makes a mental note of all stimuli. It then connects and associates memories of “enjoyment, pleasure, and satisfaction” as well as memories of “boredom, frustration, and pain” with the various stimuli that your five senses have been exposed to. Your subconscious mind will respond favorably to any form of stimuli that it associates with memories of enjoyment, happiness, pleasure, and satisfaction. Conversely, your subconscious mind will respond negatively to any form of stimuli that conjures up memories of boredom, danger, frustration, pain, or general unhappiness.
Sometimes, your conscious mind and subconscious mind will operate on the “same page.” For example, if your mind is exposed to stimuli that it perceives as ‘beneficial’ by your conscious mind, and that the subconscious mind associates with memories of ‘enjoyment’ and ‘happiness,’ the final decision will be to respond favorably to that stimuli.
On the other hand, there are many times where your conscious mind will recommend that you avoid responding to a particular form of stimuli, or that you respond negatively to a particular form of stimuli . . . but your subconscious mind associates that stimuli with a powerful memory of happiness, pleasure, and satisfaction.
For example, cheating on your wife behind her back could be considered “morally wrong and unethical” by your conscious mind, but if having sex with another woman other than your wife provokes memories of “pleasure and satisfaction” by your subconscious mind, then your subconscious mind will direct you to go right ahead and cheat on your wife.
Similarly, smoking cigarettes and eating unhealthy ‘junk food’ could be considered “detrimental to your physical health” by your conscious mind, but if one or both of those activities is associated with memories of ‘stress relief’ and ’emotional satisfaction’ by your subconscious mind, you are going to continue to smoke indefinitely and you are going to continue to eat unhealthy ‘junk food’ indefinitely.
Get it? Got it? Good. Now that you understand how the conscious mind works vs. the subconscious mind, let’s go on to the basics of hypnotism, brainwashing, and training someone’s mind to react and respond to certain types of stimuli.
THE BASICS OF HYPNOTISM, BRAINWASHING, and CONDITIONED RESPONSES & REACTIONS TO STIMULI
Based on what I told you above, here is how your mind works under “normal” circumstances:
stimuli –> conscious mind evaluates if responding to stimuli is beneficial or detrimental –> subconscious mind associates stimuli with memories of happiness or unhappiness
Let’s say you love butter pecan ice cream.
When you are presented with butter pecan ice cream as a stimuli for your taste buds to enjoy, your subconscious mind immediately says, “Yay! I love butter pecan ice cream! It makes my taste buds so happy!! I want to eat it!! I have nothing but fantastic memories of enjoying the taste of butter pecan ice cream!! I want to eat it RIGHT NOW!!”
BUT … if you promised yourself that you would stick to a low-sugar, low-fat diet for the next six months in order to lose weight, your conscious mind will say, “Whoa. Not so fast there buddy. Butter pecan ice cream is full of unhealthy amounts of both sugar and fat. My recommendation is that you should avoid eating butter pecan ice cream for at least the next six or seven months, and instead eat some fresh strawberries and a few raw pecans. That is much healthier for you.”
One of two things is going to happen at that point. Either you are going to adhere to your conscious mind’s recommendation and avoid eating the butter pecan ice cream, or you are going to ignore the recommendation by your conscious mind and eat the butter pecan ice cream anyway.
HYPNOTISM vs. BRAINWASHING
Hypnotism and Brainwashing are very similar, but yet, a tad bit different. Brainwashing usually happens over a long period of time, whereas a man or woman can hypnotize someone in a matter of hours, minutes, or sometimes, even seconds.
As mentioned above, here is what happens for men and women under “normal” circumstances:
- Your mind receives some sort of ‘stimuli’ (that stimuli can be in the form of something you see (visual), something you hear (auditory), something you smell (olfactory), something you taste (gustatory), or something you touch and/or physically feel (somatosensory)
- Your subconscious mind wants to respond immediately to the stimuli, but your conscious mind first acts as a ‘moral and ethical gatekeeper’ that will offer you recommendations based on your religious or spiritual morals, your personal values and principles, your sense of ethics, your knowledge of what is legal vs. illegal, and your overall sense of what is ‘appropriate’ behavior vs. ‘inappropriate’ behavior.
- After receiving a recommendation from your conscious mind, your subconscious mind will decide to either agree with the recommendation of your conscious mind, or blatantly ignore and disagree with the recommendation of your conscious mind.
Both the concept of hypnotism and brainwashing can affect the influence of your conscious mind, but in different ways.
To brainwash someone (also known as “social programming” or “cultural conditioning”) essentially means to train someone’s conscious mind over a period of time to automatically offer their subconscious mind either a positive or negative recommendation for a response and reaction to their given stimuli. When you brainwash someone, you’re essentially giving that person a brand new set of morals, values, ethics, along with a new sense of what is ‘right’ vs. ‘wrong,’ what is ‘beneficial’ vs. ‘detrimental,’ and what is ‘appropriate’ vs. ‘inappropriate.’
Example of brainwashing:
Let’s say that you previously lived in a country where eating pork chops was considered “acceptable.” No one in that country really criticized your choice to eat pork chops. Your conscious mind considered eating pork as “nothing detrimental to your body,” and your subconscious mind associated eating pork with memories of enjoyment for your taste buds and satisfaction for your stomach.
Now, you live in a country where eating pork is severely frowned on. Consequently, in your new country, you now have people repeatedly criticizing you for consuming any form of pork as food for your body. The people in your new country instill in your mind over and over and over again that eating pork is a “very bad” thing to do, and that it is ‘rude’ and ‘offensive’ to your fellow countrymen. They show you images of men and women who have eaten pork becoming very ill and their bodies becoming full of diseases.
Finally, you reach a point where every time you even entertain the thought of eating pork, your conscious mind recommends to your subconscious mind, “Don’t eat that pork! At maximum, you will die from it!! At minimum, all of your friends and acquaintances in your new country of residence will resent you for it!! Please … don’t eat it!!”
If you do indeed decide not to ever eat pork again, this would be a prime example of how brainwashing works. In one country, you saw no problem with eating pork. Now, in your new country, you look at eating pork as one of the worst things you can do in life if you want to maintain good physical health.
To hypnotize someone is the act of luring someone into a very relaxed, low-energy state of being to the point where that person’s conscious mind is “neutralized” or “bypassed,” and you are essentially able to communicate with that person’s subconscious mind directly without any type of interference from the conscious mind or without them listening to any sort of moral or ethical recommendations from the conscious mind.
Basically, in order to hypnotize someone … first, that person has to ‘agree’ to be hypnotized. Contrary to popular belief and invalid myths, you cannot really hypnotize someone who just flat-out does not want to be hypnotized (there are a few exceptions, which I discuss toward the end of this blog article). The person you are dealing with has to be what is known as “open-minded.” That means, “they are open to the idea of allowing you to influence their way of thinking and influence their behavior to one degree or another.”
Then, once you know that person is ‘open’ to be hypnotized, you talk to them in a low-energy, low-volume manner that figuratively speaking, “bores” their conscious mind so much, that the conscious mind essentially “disengages” (or put another way, the person’s conscious mind has more or less “fallen asleep” while their subconscious mind is still very much awake).
Then finally, what you do is give that person’s subconscious mind “instructions” on how to react and respond to certain stimuli.
Real life example of me ‘verbally hypnotizing’ a woman:
Alan (speaking to the woman in a low-volume voice while she is in a very relaxed, low-energy state): “Do you love listening to my voice …”
Woman (very relaxed, and willing to be hypnotized by me): “Yes Sir. I love the sound of your voice …”
Alan (speaking with authority, but still at a relatively low volume): “Good girl. Say it again …”
Woman (obedient): “I love the sound of your voice Sir . . .”
:: Right here, I have just reinforced the idea and instruction in this woman’s subconscious mind that she “loves the sound of Alan’s voice” ::
Alan (persuasive in an authoritative manner): “From this point forward … every time I call you, and you hear my voice … the voice you love listening to … you will become sexually aroused. You will become so aroused that you are going to experience a strong desire to want to touch yourself and masturbate. And you will masturbate to the point of orgasm. Say ‘Yes Sir’ if that is the reaction that you want to experience each time you hear my voice . . .”
Woman (obedient): “Yes Sir . . .”
Do you know that starting with the mid-1990s up until now, I have literally ‘verbally hypnotized’ hundreds of women to become sexually aroused and begin masturbating as soon as they hear my voice over-the-phone.
I remember once, I had a woman in Los Angeles so trained to respond a certain way to my voice, that if I called her at work (she worked at a hotel), she would excuse herself from whatever she was doing and find a bathroom and start playing with herself. Once, I called her while she was visiting her brother, and she literally started masturbating in the kitchen of her brother’s home (and I could hear him come out of his bedroom and say, “What in the hell are you doing???”)
Have you heard of Dr. Ivan Pavlov?
Pavlov devoted a significant portion of his career to studying the cause and effects of “conditioned responses.” Anyone who has a career in advertising and/or marketing has knowledge of conditioned responses, hypnotism, and brainwashing.
Arguably Pavlov’s most famous feat was to brainwash a dog to associate the sound of a bell with the dog’s desire for food, even if the dog had just eaten some food 30-60 minutes ago.
For those who may be skeptical, and say, “How can someone train a dog to want food just by hearing a bell?” trust me … I know it can happen, because again, I have done the same thing many times with women regarding their desire to masturbate whenever they hear my voice.
The ‘trick’ of it is really not that complicated. Here is the basic formula:
- You get a person to become so familiar with you and so comfortable talking to you that they TRUST that you have their best interests at heart. You cannot brainwash someone or hypnotize someone who does not trust you (i.e., if they feel like your long-term goal is to hurt them or cause them harm or pain, they will not willingly go along with the hypnotism).
- Once you know that person is comfortable with you and trusts you, you get that person’s subconscious mind to associate a PARTICULAR FORM OF STIMULI with A DESIRE TO ENGAGE IN AN ACTIVITY THAT THEY SUBCONSCIOUSLY ASSOCIATE WITH POSITIVE THOUGHTS and MEMORIES OF ENJOYMENT, HAPPINESS, PLEASURE and SATISFACTION.
- You get a woman to associate the gesture of you licking your tongue out of your mouth with the thought and memory of you performing oral sex on her (this would be an example of her associating a specific reaction and response to visual stimuli)
- You get a woman to associate certain words, phrases, or the overall sound of your voice with the desire to want to have sex or masturbate (this would be an example of her associating a specific reaction and response to auditory stimuli)
- You get a woman to associate the scent of a particular cologne with the thought or memory of experiencing multiple orgasms with you (this would be an example of her associating a specific reaction and response to olfactory stimuli)
- You get a woman to associate the taste of a certain brand of chocolate with the desire to tongue kiss you (this would be an example of her associating a specific reaction and response to gustatory stimuli)
- You get a woman to associate the physical sensation of you rubbing your erect penis on her face and near her mouth with the desire to want to perform oral sex on you (this would be an example of her associating a specific reaction and response to somatosensory stimuli)
WHEN IT IS ‘EASY’ TO BRAINWASH & HYPNOTIZE SOMEONE … and WHEN IT IS DIFFICULT
Anyone – without any “formal” training – can learn to brainwash someone and even hypnotize someone. It is simple, but not “easy,” if that makes sense. For example, the key to winning a basketball game or football game is to score more points than your opponent. Understanding what you need to do in order to win the game is SIMPLE, but yet, actually accomplishing that task MAY NOT BE EASY due to varying degrees of athletic talent possessed by the members of the other team.
Same thing applies to brainwashing and hypnotism.
Again, here is when brainwashing someone or hypnotizing someone is relatively easy:
- When the person trusts that you are not some sort of ‘psychopath,’ ‘sociopath,’ homicidal maniac,’ or someone whose long-term intention is to cause them mental, psychological, and/or physical harm or pain.
- When you are able to effectively change the way their conscious mind works (i.e., brainwashing) and/or you are able to temporarily or indefinitely neutralize the effect of their conscious mind on their subconscious mind, and essentially cause their conscious mind to “go to sleep” while their subconscious mind is still awake and is keenly aware of every instruction you give it (i.e., hypnosis)
- When you train that person’s subconscious mind to associate a very specific reaction and response with a very specific form of stimuli (e.g., you train their subconscious mind to have a positive reaction and response to something they see, something they hear, something they taste, something they smell, or something they touch or physically feel)
Victoria’s Secret is a retail lingerie chain that has earned millions (if not billions) because they effectively brainwashed the vast majority of women to associate a more enjoyable and satisfying sex life with wearing their particular brand of women’s lingerie.
Coca-Cola and Pepsi are two retail beverage companies that have earned millions in profits from effectively brainwashing the vast majority of their customers to associate their various soda beverages with satisfying their thirst.
Burger King, McDonald’s, and Wendy’s are all fast-food chains that essentially offer the same type of food offerings, but one has brainwashed their customers to associate most of their sandwiches with a ‘grilled’ taste (Burger King), another has brainwashed their customers to associate their menu of foods with being extremely inexpensive (McDonald’s), and the third has brainwashed their customers to associate their food with being hot and not pre-prepared until you order it (Wendy’s).
Most organized religions brainwash their followers by training them to associate various forms of behavior with being a “good person” or a “holy / God-like person,” while having them associate other forms of behavior with being a “bad person” or an “immoral person.” Those behaviors range from religion to religion. For example, some religions consider polygamy “acceptable” while other religions consider it a major ‘sin’ to practice polygamy. Some religions consider homosexuality or bisexuality “acceptable” while other religions strictly prohibit acts of homosexuality and/or bisexuality.
Here is when you will have a very challenging time brainwashing and/or hypnotizing someone:
- When a person is apprehensive, distrusting, or skeptical about the benefits of your advice or set of instructions, or they feel like your short-term or long-term intentions are not in their ‘best interests’ in the long-run (in other words, their ‘gut instinct’ is telling them that your long-term intention is to cause them some sort of emotional, physical, or psychological harm or pain)
- When you have no idea about the differences between how a person’s conscious mind works versus how their subconscious mind works
- When you are unable to train or condition that person’s mind to associate a specific reaction or response with a specific form of stimuli
JACK OF ALL TRADES … BUT MASTER OF NONE
If you notice, Victoria’s Secret does not sell men’s sports apparel. If you notice, neither Coca-Cola nor Pepsi sell women’s jewelry or women’s lingerie. If you notice, neither Burger King, McDonald’s, nor Wendy’s sell auto parts or electronics.
Among other reasons, it would ruin their “brand.” You see, as a company, your brand begins to lose its “persuasive influence” over its customers if it attempts to market and sell too many products and/or services that are not directly or indirectly related to each other.
Most major companies spend millions of dollars on what is known ‘brand marketing.’ These companies want to train your mind to associate a particular consumer product or service with their specific brand.
Well, believe it or not, this concept can many times apply to one human being’s “persuasive influence” over another human being.
IT IS VERY HARD FOR A COMEDIAN TO ALSO BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY AS A SEDUCER
A lot of my followers do not know this tidbit about me (unless they have already read my Wikipedia.org page), but I was actually a professional stand-up comedian at one time (from roughly August 1989 thru November 1990). On the positive end, I loved making people laugh hysterically. At times, I still enjoy that. At the same time though, I grew to hate developing a reputation for being known as “Mr. Funny Man.”
HUMOR vs. WIT
Most people use the terms “funny” and “witty” almost interchangeably. Those two forms of behavior are similar, but yet different.
When it comes to dealing with women, I always tell men that it is better to be ‘witty’ than ‘funny.’ To be ‘witty’ is representative of a person who carefully pays attention to the subtle nuances of how men and women do things and says things, and then they comment on those behavioral quirks in a humorous manner. For example, if you perceptively notice that every time a certain woman discusses sex, her tongue comes out of her mouth and up and to the left, and you express a lighthearted comment about it. Secondly, to be ‘witty’ means to be someone who always has a quick, perceptive, and lighthearted response (i.e., a “quick comeback” or “quick retort”) to other people’s expressed thoughts, opinions, and general comments.
To be ‘funny’ means to take something that is realistic and/or truthful, and exaggerate it or embellish it to the point where it becomes obvious that you are lying to some degree or exaggerating the truth to a large degree.
Believe it or not, trying too hard to be “funny” can sometimes actually hurt your ability to seduce women and get them sexually aroused (I discussed this when I spoke in Berlin, Germany and London, England among other speaking engagements of mine).
“Alan … are you saying that it is impossible for a man to be seductive and have a sense of humor and wit?”
Yes . . . and no.
Refer back to what I said above about “associating various forms of stimuli with a specific reaction and response.”
You see, if you train a woman’s (subconscious) mind to associate your voice and conversations with her with a desire to laugh and be entertained, it is going to be hard for her to associate you with anything other than laughing and being amused and entertained by you. Secondly, comics and comedians are known for “not being serious” when they express their thoughts and opinions on a variety of subjects. So, consequently, many women are not going to take you ‘serious’ when you express your sexual desires, interests, and intentions to them. Many times, they will think you are “just trying to be entertaining and funny.” You will be forced to put forth an ‘extra effort’ to let these women know that you’re “serious.”
This is actually one of the primary reasons that I stopped doing comedy. Among other reasons, I found that once I started developing a reputation for being “Mr. Funny Man,” a lot of people – both men and women – did not take a lot of what I had to say seriously. They began to treat just about everything I said as if I were setting them up for some sort of “joke” or “punchline.” And I did not like it at all.
I remember my brother and some of my close friends asked me at the time, “Why did you give up stand-up? You were funny man!” My main response was, “I had fun doing comedy … but I like to be taken more seriously when I have something important to say.” My brother immediately understood where I was coming from. He had witnessed me in conversation at various social events, and discussing a subject matter in a serious manner, only to have some people smile, chuckle, giggle, or laugh as if I was setting them up for a joke or punchline.
If you listen to my various episodes of Upfront & Straightforward, you’ll notice that when I am in “being funny” mode, my voice is almost always LOUD and PERKY. On the other hand, if you listen to my various episodes of The Erotic Conversationalist, you’ll notice that during my interviews and discussions with my female guests, my voice is primarily low-energy and low-volume. I rarely if ever exhibit any long stretches of humor when I am hosting The Erotic Conversationalist. I want every question I ask a woman and/or every comment I express to be taken seriously.
Remember this ‘free tip’ from me: You carry way more PERSUASIVE INFLUENCE with a person when you condition their mind to associate a particular form of stimuli you present to them with one specific desire of theirs or one specific type of reaction of theirs.
This is why McDonald’s would never start selling clothing or auto parts. They would lose their influence over their customers if they did. People would never condition their minds to associate a visit to McDonald’s with both a taste for cheeseburgers AND a desire for motor oil.
Victoria’s Secret could never get away with selling both women’s lingerie and men’s sports apparel. They would lose their influence over women, and consequently, their sales would suffer.
The same concept tends to work with male-female relationship dynamics. Once a woman’s mind has been trained to associate your voice and your presence with making her laugh from the gut, it is going to be very challenging for you to also have that woman’s mind associate your voice and your presence with sexual arousal or orgasmic pleasure. This is why I believe famous comedian Eddie Murphy once was quoted as saying, “It is extremely challenging to be perceived by a woman as being both ‘funny’ and ‘sexy’ at the same time.”
Think about it. Have you ever known a man to perform stand-up comedy while he was also a popular male stripper or adult film (porn) star? I have never met a man engaged in a career as both a stand-up comedian AND a male stripper … or a stand-up comedian AND a male porn star. Again, it is okay to be both ‘seductive’ and ‘witty.’ But you cannot really be both seductive and “funny.” Especially at the exact same moment in time.
If you want a woman to specifically associate your voice, your appearance, or your overall presence with sexual enjoyment and satisfaction, you do not want to ‘dilute’ your level of persuasive influence with her by having her (subconscious) mind associate you with too many different desires, too many different activities, and/or too many different reactions. This is one of the reasons why many times I do not allow women to discuss anything with me other than something related to sex. For example, the woman who I mentioned above who worked at the hotel in Los Angeles. 95% or more of the content of our conversations with each other revolved around discussions about sexual enjoyment and satisfaction.
Another example of this would be a woman I will refer to as “Rachel” (not her real name). For approximately the first three years that I interacted with Rachel, 90-99% of the content of our conversations would center on sex. And each time she heard my voice, she would immediately become sexually aroused. Then later, I began to talk to her about politics, sports, movies, personal disappointments and frustrations of hers and mine, career goals, etc.
Guess what? After conversing with her about a wide range of subject matter and topics over the next couple of years, Rachel said to me, “Alan … I feel like I know you better. I have a better sense of who you are as an overall person.” The “bad” news? She no longer became automatically sexually aroused each and every time she heard my voice. Occasionally? Yes. Consistently and frequently? No.
During the first three years of our interactions with each other, each time Rachel heard my voice, all of her thoughts related to me were sexual in nature. Later on, she simply associated the sound of my voice with the enjoyment of engaging in an entertaining conversation with her ‘good friend’ Alan. In one phone conversation, Rachel even admitted it. She said, “I won’t lie Alan … when you prohibited me from discussing anything other than sex, it was frustrating for me at times, but I felt much more aroused by you whenever I heard your voice. But now that we tend to talk more as ‘just friends,’ your voice does not have the same seductive effect on me any longer.”
THE VOLUME OF YOUR VOICE AND THE ETHICS OF INFLUENCING A WOMAN’S BEHAVIOR
One thing I always tell men: Never engage in a sexually provocative or erotically explicit conversation with a woman using a LOUD voice. I rarely if ever engage in ‘erotic dirty talk’ with a woman using a loud voice. That is when women will perceive your sex talk as ‘crass’ and annoying. A low-volume voice will always help you seduce a woman and ‘verbally hypnotize’ her more effectively.
Also, never attempt to seduce and/or verbally hypnotize a woman while her mind has been altered by alcohol or drugs. That is simply wrong to do. As mentioned a few times already, in order for you to ‘brainwash’ a woman or a ‘hypnotize’ a woman, a woman has to be open-minded and willing to allow you to do so.
The only way you can seduce a woman, brainwash a woman, and/or verbally hypnotize a woman without her consent is if you a) drug them, b) get them inebriated (i.e., drunk), or c) find some other way to train their mind while they are in some sort of half-asleep, semi-conscious stupor (for example, most people … when they are in a “state of shock” … are in a half-asleep, semi-conscious stupor; For example, if they just saw their mother or father get murdered in front of them). I would never encourage or condone any man attempting to influence a woman’s behavior while she is drugged, drunk, or totally unaware of what you are doing. That is simply unethical.
Just concentrate on strengthening your level of “persuasive influence.” That simply means, you need to work on developing a personality and demeanor that almost immediately makes women trust you. When you have “persuasive charm” or “persuasive influence,” this means that people will trust you indefinitely until you give them advice and conscious or subconscious instructions that prove to be detrimental to them, harmful to them, or painful to them in the long-run.
Fact: Your “persuasive charm” and sense of “personal influence” will only grow stronger with people you interact with as long as you always give them advice, instructions, or guidance that is in their best interest, leads to some degree of enjoyment, pleasure, and satisfaction, and does not lead to any sort of ‘harm’ or ‘pain.’ But, once a person feels ‘betrayed’ or ‘misled’ by you, or feels like you gave them instructions and advice that led to some sort of profound detriment for them, all of your ‘influence’ with them will diminish entirely overnight.
Am I an ‘official’ or credentialed and trained “conversational hypnotist?” NO, I AM NOT.
Have I influenced, brainwashed and/or hypnotized women using my voice and conversation skills to behave in a manner that was to my liking? YES, I HAVE. MANY, MANY, MANY TIMES.
Again, if you listen to my “Verbal Seduction Story #1” in Part Two of my Oooooh . . . Say it Again audiobook, that is an audio reenactment of an interaction I had with a woman in the 1980s where I essentially “verbally hypnotized” her. If I had a video of how this woman behaved toward me BEFORE I ‘verbally hypnotized’ her, and a video of her behavior toward me AFTERWARDS, you would literally think I had interacted with two different women during that evening. Her behavior was like night and day.
Remember . . .
Normal state of a person’s mind:
stimuli –> || conscious mind acts as a moral filter and ethical gatekeeper for the subconscious mind || –> subconscious mind
stimuli –> ((conscious mind has been trained to recommend to the subconscious mind that it respond to a particular stimuli in a positive or negative manner consistently and indefinitely)) –> subconscious mind
conscious mind has been neutralized –> subconscious mind follows the instructions of the hypnotist to respond to a particular form of stimuli with a powerful desire to engage in a specific activity and/or associate the stimuli with a powerful memory of enjoyment, happiness, pleasure and/or satisfaction
Coaching and Consultations with Alan Roger Currie
When I engage in a Skype consultation and/or Telephone consultation with a new male client … or I engage in a One-on-One / Face-to-Face Dating Coaching Session with a new male client … here is my general process of what I emphasize:
Priority #1: Helping men overcome their fear of rejection, their fear of being criticized by women, their fear of being insulted by women, and their fear of being ‘disliked’ and/or indefinitely ignored by women.
End result: My male client will be able to approach women with a higher degree of confidence and initiate a conversation with a woman with no profound fears and/or egotistical insecurities
Priority #2: Helping men overcome their invalid beliefs about women and dating, and weed out all of their ‘faulty social programming’ that causes them to engage in way too much unproductive ‘trivial small talk’ with women.
End result: My male client will feel more comfortable expressing his true romantic and/or sexual desires, interests, and intentions to women in an upfront, unapologetic, highly self-assured, specific, and straightforwardly honest manner.
Priority #3: Helping men prepare for some of the common ‘objections’ and ‘justifications for resistance’ that many women will throw at them when they exhibit Mode One Behavior.
End result: My male client will be able to feel prepared for any type of ‘resistance’ and any type of ‘ball busting and/or shit tests’ that women will throw his way during a first conversation.
Priority #4: Helping men distinguish between a ‘Reciprocator’ and a ‘Manipulative Timewaster,’ distinguish between a ‘Rejecter’ and a ‘Wholesome Pretender,’ and differentiate between a ‘Wholesome Pretender’ and a ‘Manipulative Timewaster.’
End result: My male client will be able to quickly and effectively identify a Reciprocator, a Rejecter, a Wholesome Pretender, and a Manipulative Timewaster based on their verbal reactions, their facial expressions and overall body language, and the woman’s attempts to ‘size them up’ as being either an ‘Alpha’ male or a ‘Beta’ male.
Priority #5: Helping men transform from being a ‘Total Beta Male’ and a ‘Beta Male with a small percentage of Alpha traits’ into becoming more of either a ‘Total Alpha Male’ or an ‘Alpha Male with a small percentage of Beta traits.’
End result: My male client will be able to engage in sexual relations with women without spending a significant amount of money on women, or without necessarily feeling obligated to offer a woman a promise or guarantee of long-term monogamy.
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